The Asperger's Girl Guide

As someone with Autism, Confidence can seem something that is non existent in our lives.  But when does the confidence issues become more than just an issue with image or appearance and begins to dictate your life?  I have thought about this a lot, and the more I think about confidence the more I realise that although Confidence comes from within ourselves (like it should do I might add) the more I seem to look at myself and think why do I feel like I do and is it to do with the fact that I am lacking in confidence?  Since I was a teenager (this is the stage where confidence is either there or not) I have always struggled with confidence. It started with a negative body image and it has took me to my age now to finally except myself and think that I am beautiful just the way I am. "If my 15 year old self could see me and how I except myself, she would try to pick out some type of flaw and now she would only find the scars from an operati...

We all have one of those Neighbours who can make life hell, hey there is even TV programmes about the subject these days but as someone with Aspergers when does the odd confrontation become something more than that?  Having experienced this for the last 15 years of my life with constant runs in and being threatened on a numerous occasions when does it become more than Harassment and turns into a Hate Crime?  Under UK law a Hate Crime against a Disabled Person is classed as the following :  Threatening behaviour Assault Robbery  Damage to Property Inciting others to commit a Hate Crime Harassment If any of the above has happened to you then it is defined as a Hate Crime against a Disabled person.  "As someone with Aspergers Syndrome I don't see myself or even class myself as Disabled and this is not because I don't believe I am Autistic but rather I don't see myself as less abled as a Normal Person but rather Differen...

Anxiety is normal when it comes to daily life living with Aspergers, but when you add in other factors in life your anxiety level can rise without you even realising it.  Usually anxiety can be managed with simple techniques/strategies that you have already put in place. But when life throws you a situation that you have never dealt with before and add in emotional factors how do you cope?  This is what I am facing right now, dealing with a death in the family and the emotional fall out of it all whilst trying to keep my anxiety and more importantly my Aspergers under control at the same time not to mention dealing with the family aspect of it all which can cause some difficulties.  To an outsider it might seem selfish to just focus on just your emotions or how you feel and cope with this difficult time but as a Aspergers person it's a fine balance between having a break down and causing more anxiety and stress to those closest to us or dealing with it in the ...

Just a quick little post...  I know I have been lacking in the post department as late, and that is bad of me and this is a way of an apology and even A BIG THANK YOU for all the views and hits I keep getting as I check my stats every week!  I have been going through a pretty rubbish time of late and coping with really bad writers block as a result of said rubbish time!  I don't really want to go into any details but a member of close family has just died over two weeks ago with a short and very stressful stay in Hospital but my family member died peacefully in his sleep. What happened after family member died was just well ... lets just say I stayed away from my blog because I thought I was just going to have a meltdown on here and I've always said that keep your personal life off the internet as many people are not sympathetic and there are trolls hiding and lurking everywhere really!!!  I am writing a blog post and it's difficult!!! I'm not in...

It's the hardest thing to ever have to do in your life. To say goodbye to someone who you love and accept the fact that they are going to die.  But with Aspergers, what is the right way for you to deal emotionally and physically with your grief and safely coming to accept that someone is dying or has died.  There is no right way to do this, everyone grieves in different ways.  Some people calmly accept this fact and process it before moving on past it, others grieve in a destructive manner and some never stop grieving.  Depending on your relationship with the person who is terminally ill or dying in any circumstance can make you feel like you have lost a part of your heart, like it's been ripped from your chest.  Grief is a powerful emotion that changes you as a person and with autism is there any way to really understand the emotions you are feeling let alone describing them to others. There is also the people around you, family and fr...

So it's nearly 4am on the 16th September and i'm due to go into hospital tomorrow and i've been awake and not gone to sleep yet.  I've been productive to say the least and not panicked like I would've done a year ago.Although I know i'm going into hospital and having a less invasive procedure than surgery that still requires me to be sedated i'm still sat here staring at my iPad thinking  what the hell am I doing ?  Instead of crying and wollowing in self pity i've literally done the most peoductive thing ai've done in months and actually written a full chapter of a book I started writing ... read stuff online and now thought i'd do a blog post because i'm sure i'm not the only AS person in the world right not sat bolt right up in ned wondering what to do with themselves at 4am in the morning!!!! It's a step in the right direction if i'm only feeling waves of anxiety and not reacting negatively to them although I do just want to g...

Hi everyone, A lovely producer from Optomen Television has contacted me through the email about the opportunity to find help gaining employment through their new series on BBC 2 which is looking for people with Aspergers and other difficulties to find employment. If this is is you... then please read this link below for more details:    http://bit.ly/1e2g1R8   This is only open to UK readers, but please get in touch with the contact details above.  Good Luck Guys!!!!