The Asperger's Girl Guide

Anxiety is normal when it comes to daily life living with Aspergers, but when you add in other factors in life your anxiety level can rise without you even realising it.  Usually anxiety can be managed with simple techniques/strategies that you have already put in place. But when life throws you a situation that you have never dealt with before and add in emotional factors how do you cope?  This is what I am facing right now, dealing with a death in the family and the emotional fall out of it all whilst trying to keep my anxiety and more importantly my Aspergers under control at the same time not to mention dealing with the family aspect of it all which can cause some difficulties.  To an outsider it might seem selfish to just focus on just your emotions or how you feel and cope with this difficult time but as a Aspergers person it's a fine balance between having a break down and causing more anxiety and stress to those closest to us or dealing with it in the ...

Just a quick little post...  I know I have been lacking in the post department as late, and that is bad of me and this is a way of an apology and even A BIG THANK YOU for all the views and hits I keep getting as I check my stats every week!  I have been going through a pretty rubbish time of late and coping with really bad writers block as a result of said rubbish time!  I don't really want to go into any details but a member of close family has just died over two weeks ago with a short and very stressful stay in Hospital but my family member died peacefully in his sleep. What happened after family member died was just well ... lets just say I stayed away from my blog because I thought I was just going to have a meltdown on here and I've always said that keep your personal life off the internet as many people are not sympathetic and there are trolls hiding and lurking everywhere really!!!  I am writing a blog post and it's difficult!!! I'm not in...

It's the hardest thing to ever have to do in your life. To say goodbye to someone who you love and accept the fact that they are going to die.  But with Aspergers, what is the right way for you to deal emotionally and physically with your grief and safely coming to accept that someone is dying or has died.  There is no right way to do this, everyone grieves in different ways.  Some people calmly accept this fact and process it before moving on past it, others grieve in a destructive manner and some never stop grieving.  Depending on your relationship with the person who is terminally ill or dying in any circumstance can make you feel like you have lost a part of your heart, like it's been ripped from your chest.  Grief is a powerful emotion that changes you as a person and with autism is there any way to really understand the emotions you are feeling let alone describing them to others. There is also the people around you, family and fr...

So it's nearly 4am on the 16th September and i'm due to go into hospital tomorrow and i've been awake and not gone to sleep yet.  I've been productive to say the least and not panicked like I would've done a year ago.Although I know i'm going into hospital and having a less invasive procedure than surgery that still requires me to be sedated i'm still sat here staring at my iPad thinking  what the hell am I doing ?  Instead of crying and wollowing in self pity i've literally done the most peoductive thing ai've done in months and actually written a full chapter of a book I started writing ... read stuff online and now thought i'd do a blog post because i'm sure i'm not the only AS person in the world right not sat bolt right up in ned wondering what to do with themselves at 4am in the morning!!!! It's a step in the right direction if i'm only feeling waves of anxiety and not reacting negatively to them although I do just want to g...

Hi everyone, A lovely producer from Optomen Television has contacted me through the email about the opportunity to find help gaining employment through their new series on BBC 2 which is looking for people with Aspergers and other difficulties to find employment. If this is is you... then please read this link below for more details:    http://bit.ly/1e2g1R8   This is only open to UK readers, but please get in touch with the contact details above.  Good Luck Guys!!!! 

Knowing that you may have to go to Hospital for any reason can scare the hell out of normal people, but when you're Aspergers it can send you spiralling into a Meltdown.  Hospitals are not the enemy! The Hospital might be bigger, with more sensory information to process, sick people and well it's just not a nice environment to be in general but it is a place that we have to go from time to time against our will.  For whatever reason you have landed yourself into hospital, through a referral from the GP or if you're unfortunate enough to be in A&E it can seem like preparing for the worst news you're ever going to hear in your life. But don't threat, as I have some helpful advice to avoid those anxiety attacks, Medical Jargon confusion and making sure you feel comfortable in a strange smelling environment. I have been unfortunate enough to be in and out of Hospitals since I was 15 years old for many a different reason to do with different aspects of my He...

We've all had those moments in our lives where we've turned into a Monster or the guy above for no apparent reason. Usually we can blame it on little things like Pre- Period Hormones (PMS) or normally Frustration or Anxiety that manifests itself into a downward spiral where it seems normal to lose control.  When this happens, however it can lead to some serious outcomes. The Rage that you feel doesn't just effect you as a person, whoever is in the line of fire can be faced with a someone who is losing control on themselves. If you are someone like me who goes into a severe Meltdown, you'll notice that you black out and that you'll also try to injure yourself (self harming) or harm someone else.  This is when you need to think, is this an anger issue or something much deeper that maybe connected to a mental health problem such as Depression.  It's ok to admit that you have depression and other issues and it is common for people with Aspergers to live...